I hear people say they have no regret, they are living their lives the way they planned and dreamed it. The much older ones said, they have lived a fulfilling life with no regret.
People live fulfilling lives that I agree, but that doesn’t mean they have no regret.
Well I don’t believe an adult has no regret. So it’s up to those who choose to see it differently to decide if their life is flawless.
No one has a perfect life, we all make mistakes. We must have taken one or two decisions in our lives that we regretted or taken a turn that derailed our dreams, left us disappointed and full of regrets.
I have taken decisions that I regretted and I’m not ashamed to own up to it or accept the entire blame.
It’s my life and it’s my problem. So I accept every blame that comes with it but to say I have no regret, is a lie.
I’ve spent unwisely before and I’ve also invested in businesses that didn’t yield any fruit. Money issues doesn’t really bother me much because each time I failed in business, I got back up through the grace of God with hardwork.
Moreover materialism is not a big deal to me but in hindsight, I wished I did things differently.
That said, my major regret is the choices I made in my relationships with friends, my partner and family.
Most times I took the wrong decisions out of naivety. I was too trusting and overly empathetic. I took in so much, made sacrifices for people that don’t really deserve it.
Nevertheless, it is one thing to make mistakes and bravely own up to it without dwelling on the past and not beating up yourself for it.
It is another thing to blame people for your mistakes and not accept it. Living in denial.
I have chosen to admit my mistakes and not blame anyone for it. Admitting to it, doesn’t mean I’m dwelling on the past or beating up myself.
I am only evaluating how far, I’ve come with all my mistakes and how much I’ve learnt from it.
It took so long for me to get to where I am now but I got here anyway and I’m better for it.
In essence, owning up to your life mistakes doesn’t make you a failure and it doesn’t make your life any less fulfilling. It only shows you’re a conqueror. Who fell and rose again. To me, that is a badge of honour.