I was asked an incredible question this past week and it made me feel uncomfortable. A woman asked me, if she should divorce her husband or not. She said, it is hard for her to reach a decision on her own. So l should help her out.
In the first place, nobody asked her to get married. She should also not expect anyone to tell her to get a divorce.
It’s obvious she is confused and torn between ending her marriage or staying put but she can’t just walk up to me because we her friends and expect me to help her end her marriage.
I know she is looking for someone to point her in the right direction but she seems to be going about it the wrong way.
Anyway l won’t be the one to encourage her to divorce her spouse. l honestly don’t know what problem she has with her partner and she won’t give details. She only said, she is tired of him.
It’s sometimes difficult to walk out of a marriage. It takes guts to simply walk away and not look back.
Nevertheless, this is a decision nobody can take for you because only you know where the shoe pinches. Aside that, it’s your life and your problem.
So don’t put such a heavy burden on your family and friends shoulders by asking them to decide whether you should stay or end your marriage over your marital issues.
You will hate them forever if they advised you to divorce your spouse and you did but regretted it later.
I won’t advice anyone to suggest divorce for a marriage you’re not personally involved.
It is risky advising anyone to leave their spouse even though they asked for your advice as a family or as a friend. Be diplomatic with your response or point them to the direction of a skilled therapist.
Don’t be the fall guy and don’t allow empathy to overwhelm you. It’s not in anyone’s place to breakup a marriage. Truly “what God has joined together let no man put asunder”