My niece said, she will not date a man that has nothing to offer her. She has to know what he is bringing to the table before she can agree to a relationship.
She does not want a man that will take from her and not give anything in return.
Take from her, does not mean only love and intimacy. She mentioned her time, respect, Kindness, fidelity, loyalty, including her prayers and many more.
She does not want to be the only one making all the sacrifices. He also has to be seen as been active and involved in the relationship.
I quite agree with her, not because she is my niece. She made some salient points that l found valid.
Some people are actually looking for help not a real relationship and that is their primary motive for going into a union.
They just want to take and take without giving anything in return, even the non physical things. This is not about a man or a woman, it is both.
If a man cannot offer you a gift, he should be able to offer you kindness. If he cannot be loyal to you then he should be faithful and so forth.
Something has just got to give. It is important to know your proposed partner is ready to make sacrifices and he or she is sincere about it. This will give you an idea of what to expect.
If you’re willing to pray for his wellbeing, he should also be willing to say a prayer for you. Aside that, if you give her your time, she should also do the same too. Not becoming too busy to spend her time with you.
We should not fool ourselves at the altar of love. Playing nice to a carefree partner is simply naive.
Love is give and take, it should be so for equity sake.
So what have you got to offer your partner?