TAKING A BREAK

Christmas is just a week away and I’m already feeling the joy that comes with it. It’s a great season of celebration. A time to give and enjoy with loved ones.

Everywhere is bustling with activities, infact the traffic in my part of the world has been incredibly tight for the past five days. All because of Christmas.

This is one holiday, I am forever looking forward to and l’ve equally chosen this wonderful period to take a break from work. Stretch my legs and generally relax.

I am also taking a break from posting on my blog, bunchup.WordPress.com for a little while. This is my first time of ever doing so, since l started my blog.

l will be right back on time. Bringing along, fresh and delightful new post.

Please bear with me, my dear readers and co-bloggers. You have all been amazing, sticking with me and supporting me for over two years.

I do sincerely appreciate all your visit and clicks. Let’s do it again in 2018.

I want to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Successful new year. I pray the coming year brings forth peace and joy. Amen.

See you in 2018 by His grace.

Merry Christmas and A Prosperous New year. Hippie!!!

DATING YOUR BESTFRIEND’S EX

How does it feel to date your bestfriend’s ex? It seems awkward to me but I haven’t experienced it before.

One thing I cherish most in friendship and in my relationship, is loyalty. My friends partner, whether current or ex are off limit for me and that’s my own way of showing loyalty to them.

I consider a friend dating my ex as disloyal, especially if she was a confidant during my relationship with him.

I know my ex owes me nothing and he is free to date whoever he wants but the sentimental me, will not be comfortable with him dating my best friend.

It will even be harder on me, if I still love him or if we parted ways with bitterness.

I am good at forgiving people when they hurt me but this might make it a bit difficult to overlook because I will see her as taking sides with my ex and that will be a betrayal to me.

It may sound petty to others but I won’t blame anyone for resenting his or her bestfriend for choosing to date their ex.

There is no law against dating your bestfriend’s ex but it leaves a sour taste in the mouth.

I agree we can’t choose who we fall in love with but I think it’s best we avoid hurting our friends by staying off their current or ex partners.

Please look out for my mid week post on Wednesday the 23rd of August. It is bunchup anniversary special.

LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH

I’ve always believed love conquers all and l like the feeling that love gives. The adrenaline pumping through my veins whenever I’m in love gives me pleasure and I’m ever so romantic. I still believe in fairy tale and a lasting relationship. Yes! I’ve loved and lost. Had my heart broken but never gave up on love. Well, I’ve come to realise that love is never enough.

If love was in enough, people will not leave each other or get divorced at the drop of a hat. If love was truly enough, there wouldn’t have been sibling rivalry and so many broken friendships and relationships. Everybody hinges the foundation of all relationships on love. That l agree but what carries a friendship or a relationship through is not only love. There are more to every relationship than love.

Sometimes we go to bed with our dreams and wake up to reality. We go to bed with love and wake up with a character. A character that we can either tolerate or not. No matter how much we love a person, if he or she has a bad vibe, it will discourage us and push us away. Love can make us tarry for a while but we always eventually fall out of love unless there is understanding and tolerance.

For example, I’ve seen people fall in love with drug addicts but when they can not tolerate their excesses they walk away with heart still full of love for the addict. Why many stay on in relationships, is because they have the ability to understand and tolerate the one they love or are obsessed with their subject of love.

A person that loves a drug addict and can understand his or her predicament with empathy will stay on.

People do fall out of love because they can not understand or tolerate their partners, otherwise they wouldn’t. I totally believe for a relationship to work or last, you need more than love.

You need pure understanding, tolerance and forgiveness. Some people might say they know this already, but have you thought about applying it or balancing your relationship with it.

Relationships are like mixed vegetable salad. Such salad needs three or more different types of vegetables mixed together before it becomes a mixed vegetable salad. So are all kinds of relationships, we need more than one ingredient to make it work.

Many people still believe all that is needed is love. At the end of the day, they are disappointed. There are people who don’t get along with their siblings, simply because they can not understand nor tolerate them. That doesn’t make their love for them any less. What this clearly shows, is that love is not enough.

Whoever you fall in love with, know that love alone cannot sustain your relationship. The main ingredients to a successful relationship is love, understanding, tolerance and forgiveness. Even when love fades, understanding, tolerance and forgiveness can rekindle it.

There is no handbook that will tell you what to expect in your relationship. Nothing is written in black and white. You just have to be understanding and tolerant of the one you love. Believe it, love is not enough.