I’ve always wondered how best to end an unwanted relationship. So how did you end yours? Was it one on one, through text messages or via the social media? Was it through a common friend or the silent treatment?

It is not every unwanted relationship that can end amicably. Where the people involved will mutually agree to go their separate ways without rancour. The truth is, not too many people can handle a breakup. Most are devastated and wish to seek revenge. While few will walk away unscathed, especially when they’ve seen it coming.

Whichever way you choose to end your unwanted relationship, it’s up to you but l think it is best to analyse the personality we are involved with before taking that bold step. If you are involved with someone who is temperamental, irrational, vindictive and violent. I suggest you use the silent treatment.

Where you will be quiet, cold and less receptive. The person will get tired of your attitude and walk away by him/herself. Thereby saving you an unpleasant experience, otherwise you maybe lynched like the one in the picture below or worse.


If you wish to be less dramatic, then your partner must be a reasonable person. Who can reason with you and not become a nuisance. Both of you can talk one on one and resolve to go your separate ways.

Breaking up with people that are good to us require patience because we will not want to intentionally hurt their feelings. We have to let them down gently and that is what l call a soft landing. You can remain friends with them and gently ease them off. Ironically such relationship can be rekindled in future and no damage would have been done because of the soft landing.

It is rather crude to end a relationship via the social media or through a text message. Phone calls are not any better but still manageable. You could at least give him or her the last respect by calling to tell them or explain why you choose to end it.

I’ve noticed many people prefer to use the silent treatment but it doesn’t work for all relationships. Analyse your partner, be considerate with their feelings before you walk away.

Do what is right, not what is easy. You maybe the one someone will dump next, so treat others nicely because what goes around will surely come around.


Looking good is good business. That is a regular saying in my part of the world.

It is important to look good at all times, if only for self esteem. I’ve always told people close to me that l will not be caught dead looking unkempt. I love to look good and l try to do it effortlessly.

One thing we should know as regard taking care of ourselves, is to also try to please our partners. It should be seen as a primary concern.

There must have been a physical thing that attracted a partner to one another at the beginning of a relationship. It is not always about looks, but l feel it is important to keep up whatever makes you look attractive to your partner.

Don’t become a slob simply because you’re too busy to look after yourself, too lazy or too depressed to do anything about it. Don’t even consider it as a task, enjoy looking good and it will be alot easier

I am a very busy person, l multitask, but l still find time to take care of myself. It is not easy to keep up, tough most times, but l’ve learnt to adapt to a routine that works for me and l enjoy doing it.

I get home late sometimes, too tired to lift a finger, but l won’t ever sleep without brushing my teeth, taking an evening bath on warm nights or washing my face and private areas on cold nights. I can’t survive without at least one bath a day.

Some people stay for days without a bath, some don’t even bother to brush their teeth regularly and yet they want to get intimate with their partners with offensive body odour and a stinking bad breath. That is a no show for me.

I always say no one is perfect, but we should rise above personal indiscipline. It is also not advisable to get excessively fat, your man or woman doesn’t need to struggle with your excessive body fats to get intimate with you.

Have a plan that works for you, checkmate yourself before things get out of hand. For instances, I wear a lovely waist bead to keep my weight in check, once the beads start stretching out, l know it is time to adjust myself and that has helped me to keep my weight in check. I also exercise, dance at will, just for fun yet it helps me to be firm. l walk whenever l can instead of using a vehicle.

We don’t have to look like a model to look good, even while fat we can still be a show stopper. No matter the body weight we maintain, we can still look attractive, as long as it is not excessive and we are not going overboard.

Wear clean clothes, get your hair neatly made, you don’t have to break a bank to look good. Do what you can afford, you can wear simple clothes and still look all chic and handsome. Cut your hair when necessary and keep clean nails. Everything should be done in moderation, but still look good.

Look good and stay happy.



How frequent should couples get intimate in a relationship. How many times should they have sex? Daily, once weekly, twice a week, once a month or as the mood dictates. The number of times for sex between couples should be determined by them and the type of relationship they have.

Sex is a beautiful thing between two consenting adults. My take on this issue is for couples to have sex whenever they like, maybe as the mood dictates, especially married couples. Sex can not be quantified, so give it to each other as many times as possible.

There should not be a time table for sex. A friend once told me and l quote ‘Give your spouse enough sex and he or she will always be happy with you” That may be laughable to some people, but l feel she is right.

Sex does bring couples closer and it strengthens marriages, but when is sex enough. What do you think readers ? Let me know your take on this topic. How much sex is enough sex? xoxo