I promised myself a few years back not to argue with anyone, no matter how desperate I want to prove a point.
So when a lady friend told me the best place for a woman to be, is in a beautiful marriage. I kept calm and listened to her.
Only voicing my opinion when she finished.
She said, she is honestly tired of coming in and out of relationships. She wished, she was married.
She needed stability in her romantic life and marriage is the only answer.
l wondered what gave her the impression that marriage was the only answer to her relationship issues.
I totally believe in marriage but the world does not start and end with it.
Moreover, you have to love and have confidence in yourself before you seek love from others.
No one can give you happiness or stability except yourself. Happiness and self worth comes within.
This will in turn, give you the strength to unconditionally love another and be appreciated.
Desperate as she is for a romantic stability, she will one day rush into marriage, get hurt and rush out.
l’ve done my bit as a counselor, by advising her to take a step back. I and reappraise her relationship goals.
Change her taste in men since the ones she has been dating are not working for her.
While doing that, she should stop thinking marriage is the only way to get romantic stability or the beginning and the end of life.
I also told her not to define herself by her relationship success or failure. Above all, she should find happiness and fulfillment within before attempting marriage.