I had a conversation with a middle aged man, who told me his wife is a wonderful woman and no other woman comes before her. She is first he said, yet he has strings of girlfriends.
He comes home very late everyday with little or no time to spend with his so called wonderful wife.
Hardly ever available for family outings and most of his free time is spent with girlfriends in guest houses and hotel bars.
He loves his beer and his countless women, still he claims his wife comes first.
What the hoops is he talking about, I queried. His actions apparently contradicts his words.
To me, his wife obviously comes last.
No man or woman will consider their spouse first and spend most of their time with other people, unless it is work related.
They will always be happy to spend their free time with their spouse, not lock themselves up in a hotel room with girlfriends or boyfriends.
When l asked him why he has numerous girlfriends despite having a loving wife.
He said, one woman can not satisfy a him and he will always have his flings but he will not bring another woman into his matrimonial home.
He won’t ever divorce his wife nor marry a second wife.
That in his myopic mind, makes his wife to be the first.
Everything he said to me, made me to conclude is a selfish man. Who is only concerned about himself and his needs.
He has no love or respect for any woman, not even for his wonderful wife. Whom he says, is sweet and caring.
I told him, he is a chronic flirt. He is eating his cake and having it because his wife permitted him. She probably kept a blind eye to his philandering for peace sake.
I won’t agree to spend the rest of my life with such a cheat.
A man that will rather spend his time with other women and keep me only as his first lady, has no place in my life.
It is wrong to put your partner first with words and treat them last with your actions. If he or she comes first in your life, show them in words and in your actions.