I was recently called an old school because I said I won’t ever propose to a man. I am aware ladies are proposing to men these days and I’m not against it, but I won’t.
Many of my readers might think I’m rigid but this is not about rigidity or being an old school. I have in the past expressed my affection to a man I had a huge crush on and his actions rattled me.
He even accused me of guilt tripping just to put me off but the only thing I was guilty of, was overwhelming him with love messages.
I felt he didn’t really understand the true meaning of guilt tripping, that was why he flippantly accused me of it.
I do intend writing on guilt tripping someday soon, to shed more light on it’s real meaning.
My lack of enthusiasm in proposing to a man is not because my crush rejected my love advances, but his actions gave me an insight to what some men think of women that chase them.
It also helped me (in addition to my other life experiences)to form this decision of not proposing to a man.
I believe men don’t like to be chased by women. They enjoy the thrill of chasing a woman and succeeding. It’s the hunt and kill, a man likes.
If a woman chase a man or proposes to him, some men are quick to think she is too forward. Some are so myopic to the point of thinking it’s not normal.
Very few men are truly open to been proposed to. That is why I’ve always played it safe and allow the man to make the first move.
I cannot be second guessing my partner to know if he is the type that is open to a woman’s proposal or not.
Anyway it doesn’t’t really matter who proposes first. It’s just not my style.
Thoughts on this topic, will be appreciated.