I was astonished when a friend told me she is going to her grave with a secret she has kept deep in her heart for fifteen years. She had told no one about it but she had to open up to me because she needed my advice.

Why ask me for an advice when she has already made up her mind to die with her secret. I believe her reason for telling me this secret is not to seek for my counsel. I think she felt the need to unburden her overloaded mind.

She was four months pregnant, before she realised it. There were no signs nor symptoms. As she said, everything was normal with her in the early months of her pregnancy and that made it difficult for her to know she was with a child.

She only knew something was amiss, when her stomach started protruding and that made her to visit the hospital where the news was broken to her.

Sadly her partner was no longer in the picture. They broke up three months earlier and she learnt, he has since travelled abroad when she went looking for him to break the shocking news of her pregnancy to him.

Determined not to terminate the pregnancy, she went on with it to term and had a beautiful baby girl who will be fifteen years old in november.

Somewhere along the way, she met someone new and they got married.

To this day, her daughter thinks her stepfather is her real father. Only my friend knows who her biological father is.

Her ex partner who is the real father of her daughter is now back in her life.

They met again through Facebook and he wants to be fully involved with my friend but she has continued to avoid him because she does not want him to meet his daughter. In her words, “I don’t want to rock the boat”.

I know it’s a tricky situation to open up to the two other people involved in this life drama, especially her daughter because she will feel betrayed and deceived by her mother for making her think someone else was her biological father.

In such a situation, I will take my chances and tell both of them. Get the whole damn secret out of my mind and be at peace within me.

I don’t see any reason to hide such secrets. It is too much a burden for someone like me to carry. Moreover I won’t deny my child the right to know her father.

She will be doing herself a favour if she tells those involved and live with whatever happens afterwards, instead of going to her grave with it.

I bet, she will sleep better at night if the secret is out.

Would you advice she tells them both or continue to live a life of deceit?

5 thoughts on “A DEEP SECRET

  1. I keep an eye on your blogs and i am loving them. I wanted to give this to you!

    Oh, happy day!

    Blogging by yourself is fun, but is even more fun when you are sharing your thoughts in a community!  Today, I got nominated for the Liebster Award by the lovely prenika. Thanks for the nomination and to all people: if you don’t know her, you should defenitely check out her blog! Thank you again for the nomination.  It makes me so happy!

    Okay, here’s the rules:
    1) Post a short Q&A about themselves
    2) Answer the questions the tagger has asked
    3) Create a new list of questions for their own nominees
    4) Choose a list of their own nominees and notify them

    About me:

    Q: Were you named after anyone?
    A: Yes. I was named after my aunt on my mother’s side of the family. They where very close and my aunt was the first to find out about my mom being pregnant. Sadly, my Aunt’s husband at the time was abusing her and just a few weeks before I born, her husband drove her up into the surrounding mountains and shot her in the head. She was going to leave him and he found out before she could escape. Now, I get the blessing of being named after such an amazing and strong woman!

    Q: If you could go back to any time, during your own life, when would it be and how come?
    A: I would go back to when I was 18 and really listened to everything that my dad ever wanted me to know or teach me because now that he had passed almost 4 years ago now I won’t ever be able to have any type of conversation with him again.

    Q: What are your Top 3 things that matter to you more then anything else in the world?
    A: I can honestly say that my list of 3 things I have always held them close to my heart and see them being my most important. SSSOOO call me corny, that’s ok.       1.) My Family.                                                                                                                                         2.) Being In An Honest Relationship With The Man of My Dreams, with God involved.                                                                                                                                             3.) Happiness!!!

    Q: What is your favorite sport team? Why?
    A: My favorite sports team would have to be the Denver Broncos football team, located in Denver, CO. 

    Q: Favorite Music?
    A: I love music. All kinds of it. I’m all over the bored but mostly like classic and current country, Pop music, Rap, Hip&Pop, classic rock, old school rap and hip&pop. I also am loving a lot of songs MTV currently have been playing up until their award show.

    My Questions for you:( From Bryan)

    What has been the most incredible moment of your life?- I live in Albuquerque, NM my most incredible moment of my life was my boyfriend and I going on a surprise vacation for me and him taking me to sea world and then to really see the sea!
    What or who makes you happy in life? – My Niece’s and Nephew’s make me happy in my life! I love them so unconditionally!
    What do you look for in a friend or in a partner? – Just a really great sense of humor! lol. Someone who can make me laugh and smile even if i’m really mad at that moment.
    Do you have any pets? Do you like animals? – Yes I have a small dog and a really pretty bird.
    Would you consider yourself an outside or inside person?- both. i love them both. but i love even more being comfortable. I do love to go camping for a week at a time and rough it but i also love cuddled up on the couch.
    What is your favorite food?- Gonna sound crazy but that’s okay. Any type of way you can make a potato, I eat them forever!
    Is there a place that you really want to visit (again)? There is a lake up by Durango, CO that is where I’ve gone sense I was a kid. Now that Dad is gone, it makes it even more special!
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    Questions I’ve chosen for YOU to answer:

    What is your biggest regret in life, and if you are okay with sharing, How come?
    If someone just came up to you and offered a helping hand with anything you needed at all, what would it be that you’d ask for help?
    What is the most interesting thing you have come account in the last 2 weeks? It can be anything, the news, an item, something you never knew.
    Are you more of a morning person or a night owl??
    Are you the type of person who feels uncomfortable when a conversation about sex comes up, or are you one to jump in and join the conversation?
    A big thank you to all the readers out there! I can’t say it enough! Good luck to my nominees! I’m gonna do a celebration dance now.

    Stay safe, have tons of fun, share the love, oh and keep an eye on my page. K? 🙂 

    BYE- Dori Friend

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    From a personal and professional point of view, to me the answer is what has been given already and what you prefer: Let the truth come out. Secrets such as this one only do harm. If your friend steps in the shoes of her daughter, she knows what is right.

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