I like it when a man tells me exactly what he wants from me or what he is expecting from our relationship.
It makes life and the relationship a lot easier to manage and you wouldn’t have to waste precious time on a partner that is not meeting your needs and desires.
I didn’t start out knowing what I wanted from my romantic relationship. Mine was to fall in love and just go with the flow.
Apparently, that didn’t work out for me because I was floating in an empty relationship that didn’t fulfill my heart desires.
Years down the line with maturity, I seriously know what I want from my man and I won’t probably settle for too less.
My fruit should not fall far from it’s tree. That is how, I view my choices now.
There are men and women who are very honest from the beginning. They lay their cards bare on the table and are prepared to walk away instead of compromising their integrity.
Some men who knows what they want and are not afraid to ask for it, will tell you they are just looking to have fun with you, no marriage, no babies. That is fair and honest enough.
If you want the same thing with this person, go for it otherwise look for someone else who wants what you want. Who is ready to take full responsibility when it happens.
Some women will agree to this arrangement and still get pregnant with the hope that the man will change his mind and marry them.
When that does not happen, they cry foul.
If a person has told you, what he or she wants from you from the beginning and you agree to it. You don’t need to pull a fast one or be disappointed with the outcome of the relationship if you derailed.
I can never put myself in a baby mama situation, unless I’m willing to solely take care of that child.
That is why we have to set a relationship standard for ourselves from the beginning and not jump into any relationship.
I’ve learnt my life lessons the hard way and it’s painful to be in an unsatisfying relationship. You will just be drifting through life until something gives.
This is your life and you get to live it once, no season two. It is not worth wasting time in a relationship that only makes you uncomfortable.
Be with someone that will treat you right or walk away, if he or she is not right for you before you invest too much of your time in the relationship.
A partner that can meet 65% of my relationship needs is a pass mark to me.
To avoid confusion and disappointment in your romantic life. Identify what your relationship needs are, the kind of partner you wish to be with and stick with it. That doesn’t mean you’re not flexible, you’re only been cautious.
You will be a lot happier if you’re with the kind of partner your heart desire, instead of trying to change or hoping someone will change to the type of partner you want.
Don’t sell yourself short or you will look back in regret.