I felt it was selfish to say “No” to my partner, family and friends, even when I had to go out of my way to please them but it is not.
Not knowing how to say no to people have cost me alot of discomfort and regret. I always want to please people to show my humility and to show how much I care about them but they won’t hesitate to give me a cold shoulder when push comes to shove.
Most people are basically selfish, they will always ask and want more, especially when they know you’re kind and willing but they are not ready to give in return.
Once they find a gullible person in you, you’re in trouble. They will continue to take advantage of you until you learn to say no.
When you start refusing their request, you’re no longer seen as a good person.
That is why we should learn to say no to things we are not comfortable with and not be vulnerable to abuse by selfish people.
We should also extend it to our partner because you can’t also please them all the time.
I know we have to make a lot of sacrifices in our marriages or partnership but I believe we don’t have to completely bend inside out to please our partner or do unethical things to show we love them.
Some of us don’t know how to say no. If your partner or anyone is asking you to do what you detest, please say no. You can let him or her down gently but make sure you get the message through to him.
No one should force you to do what you don’t want to do. Don’t feel obliged to say yes to what will dehumanise you, simply because you love your partner too much to refuse her.
If you’re going to hate your partner later for it, put your foot down and say no.
Love yourself enough to know when and how to say no to a request that is detrimental to your health, happiness and wellbeing. Saying no to your partner doesn’t make you a bad person or make you to love him less, as long as you’re saying no for the right reason.
Don’t do what you will regret later, loving someone doesn’t mean you have to please them all the time.