Why do we keep secrets from our partners and why do we think it is necessary to do so?
A woman once told me that, she is never comfortable sharing everything that goes on in her life with her partner because she is entitled to some privacy. She believes her spouse will take advantage of her or be jealous, if he knows everything about her and her achievements.
Some men also feel vulnerable and weak when they share their secrets with their partner.
What is the sense in keeping secrets from your spouse? Why are you married to that person, when you can’t share your thoughts and what goes on in your life with him or her? Your spouse should be seen as your best friend not your enemy. A companion that should share in your pain and joy.
It makes life easier for both partners to be honest with each other and it brings them closer. There wouldn’t be any unpleasant surprises, if there are no secrets and when people say negative things about your partner, it won’t come as a shock to you because you already know the truth.
Two good heads are always better than one and I don’t believe a loving couple should keep secrets from each other.
If you’re keeping secrets from your partner, please note that, something is fundamentally wrong with your relationship and there is no mutual love and closeness between the two of you. Don’t make your relationship unnecessarily complicated by keeping secrets. Where there is genuine love and respect, there should be no secrets.