Do you know who you are sleeping with? Not many of us know the truth about who we get under the cover with, but we assume all is well as long as love flows.
So are you sleeping with your enemy, your lover, spouse, friends with benefit or a boyfriend/ girlfriend?
How are you sure you’re not sleeping with your enemy?
Some people are aware they have deadly or chronic sexually transmitted disease yet they sleep with their partners without protection, not telling them about their true status. Not caring if he/ she contact the disease. Will you call such a person a lover, spouse or an enemy? Somebody who does that is sureIy an enemy with no love in his/her heart.
What will you say, about a partner that will not hesitate to humiliate you in public, turn you into a punching bag, steal from you but make sweet love to you in the bedroom? Well everything feels okay in bed, but something is definitely wrong with such a relationship. Such partner is an enemy.
A partner willing to cheat on you with your friends, relatives anyone that catches his/ her fancy at will and then he comes back pledging an undying love with a good make up sex only to do the same thing again and again is no lover but an enemy.
I can go on and on with clear examples, but my aim is to create awareness whereby we will be pragmatic while choosing our partners and not using only our emotions. There are always a tell tale sign that we ignore, mostly women. We are controlled by the sweet words we hear and soon get lost in a man especially when we are smitten and the sex is equally good.
It shouldn’t be business as usual. Ask questions, know your partners sexual activities or insist on using a condom, if he or she is not forthcoming with the true situation.
Courtship also helps in getting to know a person, don’t rush into marriage without getting to know who you want to spend the rest of your life with. It’s not always about now, but the future. It is also not about the wedding dress or the ceremony. It is about the joy and happiness in a true loving relationship.
We can not always be too careful but at least, try. Let’s make an effort in knowing who we want to get into bed with so we won’t regret it when it is either too painful or too late.
Do you know who you’re sleeping with?