I’m sure many women don’t want to hear about their in laws, especially their mother in law. Some women see their husband or partner’s mother as a threat to their marriage or their relationship and so do some men.
Why is there always friction between a woman and her mother in law. I just feel both women are competing with each other for the affection of one man. The wife wants her hubby or partner’s undivided attention, while the mother also wants his son’s loving attention. This situation is mostly common with daughter in law and mother in law relationship. It does also happen to some son in law and their mother in law, but minimal in their own case.
I see no reason why it should be so, this cat and mouse relationship between daughter in law and mother in law has been in existence for so long. It is very common in my part of the world and in many other countries.
My view on this issue is for women to see their mother in law as their mother, treat then like your own. Don’t see them as a competition, because you will one day become someone’s mother in law and you wouldn’t want to be treated otherwise. Show them love and accept them with their shortcomings.
Don’t try to separate your spouse from his or her mother or parents, instead encourage your partner to take care of his/ her mother. In general extend the love you have for your spouse to his family. Even when they are been mean to you, don’t be rude to them. Be warm and accomodating towards them and they will eventually come round.
I know some mother in law are difficult to please, they set unrealistic standard for their son’s partner. Some feel no woman is worthy of their son, while some feel no man is worthy of their daughter. Mother in law should stay out of there children’s relationship or marriages, allow them to choose whoever they want and except their choice with an open arm and love.
Stop seeing your children’s wives or partners as a competition. Love them like your own. Men should also stand up to their duties. Love your wife and lovingly take care of your mother in extension your parents. The same applies to women too. Do the same and there will be peace between your spouse and your family.
I wouldn’t want to ever insult my mother in law, because what goes around will come around. I will one day be someone’s mother in law and l wouldn’t want to be insulted by my daughter in law. I consider my partner’s family my own. It’s like enjoying two world’s and having so many loved ones standing solidly behind you.